No one beyond their youth wants to be in their twenties again. “I’ll take the body, but I wouldn’t want the life,” a 66 year old woman assured me. These are the most difficult years of all. We have to figure out who to love, how to love, and what we should do with our lives. Most of us end up living through several answers to the question, “Who am I?” Searching for what feels right tends to be arduous and confusing, with the ache of considerable trial and error.